We started this episode off with some updates with what has been going on in our businesses since we launched the podcast.
We’ve shared everything we’ve done and how much we’ve accomplished in a short period of time with Freedom Papers. This podcast happened from idea (July 18th) to launch (August 8th) in 3 weeks. In over 8 years of running a business, nothing has been as effortless as creating and launching this podcast.
Jon Hits a Wall
Jon shared a story about something he thought was going to happen (a new ‘gig’) and didn’t. He knew he was qualified, went in feeling confident and could tell after being there for a bit that it wasn’t going to happen. On top of that not happening he has some additional projects going on that take up his time at night and of course we launched the podcast.
In other words, he was in a funk (or in a qualm as he said, which is a real word).
You can only do so much before it catches up to you.
My thoughts on Jon not getting ‘the gig’ was that it wasn’t supposed to be. Which even though you can trust that and believe that, it can still be deflating. So there’s the emotional side of this as well. For Jon, that means accepting it and then deciding to use that as motivation.[clickToTweet tweet=”Those boundaries work. You get to make the rules, it’s your business. #freedompaperspodcast” quote=”Those boundaries work. You get to make the rules, it’s your business.”]
We talked a lot about being in control of our own businesses, what that looks like and how we work through it.
My Process When I Get Pissed
I used to be a bit of a crazy person when I got angry.
I’d go from 0 to 60 in a New York minute.
Until I realized that me doing that didn’t make me feel better and didn’t serve anyone.
I’ve finally learned that I have a process when things go sideways. I do my little bit of spinning (much less than I used to), I try not to pull people into my drama (telling and re-telling of stories… this is one I’m always working on. Our ego wants SO much to justify our anger).
The Question I Asked Jon
I have a tendency to trace my steps with things that didn’t work out and almost every time I can see that had that thing happened there wouldn’t be something else in my life (whether it’s a person who has come into my life or an opportunity).
Which is what I asked Jon.
If he could look back in his business and see if there had been a time where something that he wanted to happen didn’t… and it was for the better.
He couldn’t… 🙂 but he did share how he’s been able to keep relationships strong because he’s constantly staying in touch and reaching out to people.
Twitter Squabble to Friends
Jon is much more active on Twitter than I am… he’s great at getting involved in twitter conversations that maybe started out sort of snarky and he was able to turn the conversation around. Because he doesn’t want to be that public, angry person.[clickToTweet tweet=”I won’t negotiate my sense of self-worth #freedompaperspodcast” quote=”I won’t negotiate my sense of self-worth”]
We Went A Little Sideways
There’s nothing like being in a funk or hitting a wall to get the conversation going in a direction you didn’t see coming.
We both talked about how we manage things when we get frustrated, the steps we take in our lives along with our business (getting off the computer for me) and how we choose not to feed that space.
“You can’t solve the problem with the same mind that created it.”
– Albert Einstein
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